
“I should do the extra assignment my boss assigned me,” “I should be a 4.0 student.” “ I shouldn’t eat dessert,” “I should just be grateful, there are people out there who have it worse than me.” These are some examples of counterproductive thoughts, aka the “should” statements, that many therapists trained in (Cognitive Behavior Therapy) CBT will challenge with their clients.
Many of us call it “catching the shoulds.” Notice how often you are “shoulding yourself.” Once you recognize this you can then challenge these counterproductive thoughts. Play detective and ask yourself “what would I tell my loved one if they made similar statements?” We are often our own worst enemy. Once we flip the script and realize, “ I would be gentler with my friends etc.,” we can hold space for ourselves and become more compassionate.
The “shoulds” are not the only example of counterproductive thoughts. Click on the link below and pay attention to how often other counterproductive thoughts pop up. It may be beneficial to write down when it occurred, what feelings you had, and how you felt physically. If you would like more strategies to help, please consult with a therapist trained in CBT to help guide you.









