
Statistics show 1 out of 4 women experience physical abuse from an intimate partner. This blog certainly recognizes that men are victims. However, for the most part society focuses on women. The focus seems to always concern the question, “why did she stay?” “why won’t she just leave?” etc. The questions come with good intent but may leave the woman feeling isolated.
Many women have many reasons that they stayed. In fact, there was a whole hashtag trend #whyistayed on the internet a few years ago (below is an article). Domestic abuse is more than just physical. Domestic abuse is emotionally and mentally damaging. There are also the different phases of domestic abuse; the abuser will hurt and then apologize and swear it will never happen again. These stages are not linear and not one person follows the same course or time frame.
It is to be noted, women often make less money than men and are usually the childcare providers. This puts even more of a strain on them. There are ways out, but one must be sensitive to each individual case. Sometimes a safety plan is put into place along with gaining job skills or more economic freedom. Looking at options for childcare, etc. Be mindful, that society may focus more on why she stayed and less on why he abused. A therapist can help navigate the feelings that come with leaving or staying and most importantly empower her. Listen to why she stayed or is staying.









